The New Psychology of Success
by Carol Dweck
Read: 2017-8-3, Rating: 8/10.
Plenty of stories demonstrating growth mindset and fixed mindsets, with main points summarised at the end of the chapter. Many suggestions on how to recognize and show interest in efforts and choices.
CHAPTER 1: THE MINDSETS
Whether human qualities are things that can be cultivated or things that are carved in stone is an old issue.
Believing that your qualities are carved in stone—the fixed mindset—creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over.
This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts, your strategies, and help from others.
The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.
take the risks, confront the challenges, and keep working at them.
studies show that people are terrible at estimating their abilities.
IS SUCCESS ABOUT LEARNING—OR PROVING YOU’RE SMART?
I divide the world into the learners and nonlearners
All my life I’ve been playing up, meaning I’ve challenged myself with players older, bigger, more skillful, more experienced—in short, better than me.
When Do You Feel Smart: When You’re Flawless or When You’re Learning?
People with the growth mindset know that it takes time for potential to flower
You cannot determine the slope of a line given only one point, as there is no line to begin with.
CHAPTER 2: INSIDE THE MINDSETS
failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure).
Even in the growth mindset, failure can be a painful experience. But it doesn’t define you. It’s a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from.
The growth mindset does allow people to love what they’re doing
It’s ironic: The top is where the fixed-mindset people hunger to be, but it’s where many growth-minded people arrive as a by-product of their enthusiasm for what they do.
Chapter 5 BUSINESS: MINDSET AND LEADERSHIP
Jack: Listening, Crediting, Nurturing
True self-confidence is “the courage to be open—to welcome change and new ideas regardless of their source.” Jack Welch
Chapter 6 RELATIONSHIPS: MINDSETS IN LOVE (OR NOT)
Chapter 7 PARENTS, TEACHERS, AND COACHES: WHERE DO MINDSETS COME FROM?
You are a developing person and I am committed to your development.
Praising children’s intelligence harms their motivation and it harms their performance.
If success means they’re smart, then failure means they’re dumb. That’s the fixed mindset.
If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, seek new strategies, and keep on learning.
Many examples to reread to recognize and show interest in efforts and choices
“Praise should deal, not with the child’s personality attributes, but with his efforts and achievements.”
Speed and perfection are the enemy of difficult learning
What is the message I’m sending here: I will judge and punish you? Or I will help you think and learn?
The great teachers believe in the growth of the intellect and talent, and they are fascinated with the process of learning.
When teachers are judging them, students will sabotage the teacher by not trying. But when students understand that school is for them—a way for them to grow their minds—they do not insist on sabotaging themselves.
THE HOLY GRAIL: FULL PREPARATION AND FULL EFFORT
“You have to apply yourself each day to becoming a little better. By applying yourself to the task of becoming a little better each and every day over a period of time, you will become a lot better.”
“Show me what you’ve done, let’s try to understand how you’re thinking, and then let’s figure out what you should try next.”
Change isn’t like surgery. Even when you change, the old beliefs aren’t just removed like a worn-out hip or knee and replaced with better ones. Instead, the new beliefs take their place alongside the old ones, and as they become stronger, they give you a different way to think, feel, and act.
“What did you learn today?” “What mistake did you make that taught you something?” “What did you try hard at today?”
You want to communicate that feats of intellect or physical prowess are not all you care about.
MINDSET AND WILLPOWER
Every lapse doesn’t spell doom. It’s like anything else in the growth mindset. It’s a reminder that you’re an unfinished human being and a clue to how to do it better next time.
When people… change to a growth mindset, they change from a judge-and-be-judged framework to a learn-and-help-learn framework
THE JOURNEY TO A (TRUE) GROWTH MINDSET
The first step is to embrace your fixed mindset.
The second step is to become aware of your fixed-mindset triggers.
Now give your fixed-mindset persona a name.
Educate it. Take it on the journey with you.