Few people listen. I say this as someone who doesn’t get this right, but I at least “get it” and work on it. The very hardest lesson in all of human existence is to know how to admit you were wrong and change your mind. Decoupling emotions from changing your mind is the single greatest formula for success in life and I can LITERALLY trace this feature to its inception and see an immediate increase in my success in life + a decrease in my stress in life.
Several features come from learning this:
- You take criticism easy. I thrive on this kind of feedback.
- You cease getting emotional when you find out you’re wrong or when someone corrects you.
- You assimilate the new data quickly and can change nimbly.
- You gain standing in your tribe (in contrast to the intuitive compulsion to never admit you’re wrong).
- Your stress goes way down as you cease identifying yourself with bits of data on a note card and identify yourself with the process and the ethical system you maintain.
- You end up, over time, decreasing the times that you are actually wrong because you know when to check out of an argument and say, “Whoa. I don’t know any of this stuff and I’ll defer to you.”
- You end up, over time, decreasing the times you are actually wrong because you have refined your system of belief so much that you know the borders between what you really know and what you just sort of think is true.